How to Say “I do” | Vows | Parts of a Wedding Ceremony

How to say I doThe most common question I receive is how to say  ”I do”.  The “I do’s, seem to be the most controversial part of  a wedding ceremony.  These are the promises or vows that you are actually taking and many couples today like to write their own vows.  You may want to give some thought to what you, as a couple, will be promising to one another and customize your vows to suit your feeling.

Answering the Officiants Questions

(Optional Question-Who gives this woman to be the bride of this man? (The father/parents stand up,  respond “I/We do” and then are seated))

(Brides Name) and (Grooms Name), If you are ready to step into the holy circle of matrimony, assuming all its rights, obligations and abundant joys, please so indicate by joining hands.

Do you, (Brides Name) take this man, (Grooms Name) as your husband, to love him and to honor him, to nurture, serve and support him, in times of joy and in times of difficulty? Do you promise to remain by his side regardless of what trouble befalls you, and in the presence of temptation to forsake this love, do you promise to remain steadfast and true? Do you promise with all your heart and soul to honor this vow till death do you part? If so, answer now, “I do.”(Bride answers, “I do”)

Do you, (Grooms Name) take this woman, (Brides Name) as your wife, to love her and to honor her, to nurture, serve and support her, in times of joy and in times of difficulty? Do you promise to remain by her side regardless of what trouble befalls you, and in the presence of temptation to forsake this love, do you promise to remain steadfast and true? Do you promise with all your heart and soul to honor this vow till death do you part? If so answer now, “I do.”(Groom answers, “I do”)

The Ring Ceremony

And so we come (Brides Name) and (Grooms Name), to the presentation of rings by which you symbolize and bind your love.

The circle has long been a symbol of spirit and the power of God. The sky and the earth are round. The wind in its greatest power whirls. The sun and moon, both round, come forth and go down again in a circle. Even the seasons form a great circle in their changing and always come back again to where they were.  Without beginning or end and with no point of weakness, the circle is a reminder of the eternal quality of God and of unending strength. Let the seamless circle of these rings become the symbol of your endless love and unending faithfulness.  Your wedding rings are most special because they say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bonded, to allow the presence of another human being to enhance who you are.  Your rings carry a potent double message: We are individuals and yet we belong; we are not alone.  As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are but also the glorious union that you are now creating.

God, bless these rings and the two who exchange them. Fill them with your Holy

Presence.  Keep them safe in the circle of Your protection and love.

(Brides Name), place the ring on (Grooms Name)’s finger and repeat after me:  “With this ring, I pledge my love and faithfulness to you, today, tomorrow and always.” or (“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.”)  or (“As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.”)

(Grooms Name), place the ring on (Brides Name)’s finger and repeat after me: “With this ring, I pledge my love and faithfulness to you, today, tomorrow and always.” or (“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine.”)  or (“As this ring has no end, neither shall my love for you.”)

Wear these rings as the enclosing bond of reverence and trust. Fulfill the circle of love that now makes you one.

Wedding Vows and Ring Ceremony Combined

Do you have your rings? (They respond, “Yes”)

The circle has long been a symbol of God. Without beginning or end and with no point of weakness, the circle is a reminder of the eternal quality of God and of unending strength. Let the seamless circle of these rings become the symbol of your endless love. Your wedding rings are most special because they say that even in your uniqueness you have chosen to be bonded, to allow the presence of another human being to enhance who you are.  Your rings carry a potent double message: We are individuals and yet we belong; we are not alone.  As you wear them through time, they will reflect not only who you are but also the glorious union that you are now creating.

God, bless these rings and the two who exchange them. Fill them with your Holy

Presence.  Keep them safe in the circle of Your protection and love.

(Grooms Name), as you place this ring on (Brides Name), I now ask you: Do you take this woman to be your lawful wedded wife?  Do you promise God, (Brides Name) and all of us here that from this point forward, your arms may be her shelter and your heart may be her guide? Do you promise to support her and nourish her and to love and respect and honor her for the rest of your days on earth?  If so please answer “I do.”

(Brides Name), as you place this ring on (Grooms Name), I now ask you: Do you take this man to be your lawful wedded husband?  Do you promise God, (Grooms Name) and all of us here that from this point forward, your arms may be his shelter and your heart may be his guide? Do you promise to support him and nourish him and to love and respect and honor him for the rest of your days on earth?  If so please answer “I do.”

Vows (Couple can say their own prepared vows or choose from samples below. Vows may be

a) read  entirely by minister;

b) read  phrase by phrase by minister and repeated by wedding partners;

c) read  entirely by wedding partners.)

For Vows Written by the Couple:

(Brides Name) and (Grooms Name), having thus committed themselves, now wish to declare their love for one another in words that they have written.

Alternate Wedding Vows

Please join hands, look into each other’s eyes, and repeat after me:

From this day forward,

I make a promise:

what ever happens,

you shall not walk alone.

I’ll stand by your side,

and sleep in your arms,

I’ll be the joy in your heart,

and the food for your soul,

May you feel deeply loved

for indeed you are.

Through our brightest days

and our darkest nights,

I take you,

into my heart.

May God bless us,

with a great light,

around our hearts,

and around our home.

I see your beauty,

your innocence and light.

May it shine.

May the world see how beautiful you are

as I see how beautiful you are,

but may there be a special light

that only I can see.

I give you my heart.

May we feel this joy forever.

Thank you God.

Amen

or…

From this day on

I choose you to be my beloved soul mate,

to live with you and laugh with you;

to stand by your side and sleep in your arms;

to be joy to your heart and food to your soul;

to bring out the best in you always;

to be the best I can be, just for you;

to celebrate with you in the good times;

to struggle with you in the bad;

to solace you when you are down‑hearted;

to wipe your tears with my hands;

to care for you with my entire being;

to share with you everything that I have;

as we treat each other with tenderness, compassion and love.

(Vows Option 4-Traditional Vows)

Please join hands, look into each other’s eyes, and repeat after me:

I, (Grooms Name), take thee, (Brides Name), for my lawful wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health as long as we both shall live.

I, (Brides Name), take thee, (Grooms Name), for my lawful wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health as long as we both shall live.

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